Families are a funny thing. They can drive us so crazy, but at the same time we never stop loving them.
It’s the old saying that blood is thicker than water. But not always. I like many people in this day and age come from an extended family. Some are related by blood, some are not. Compared to a lot of other people (and Disney films) I had a great relationship with my step parents. For this Mother’s Day I thought it would be nice to honor the best step families on film. Let’s get started, but before we do there probably will be some SPOILERS in these entries.
Honorable Mention: Mrs. Doubtfire
This is a honorable mention because even though Robin Williams and Sally Field do divorce early on; she never gets married to Pierce Brosnan’s character. I always got the sense it would happen some times after the events of the film, but technically we don’t know. The reason I want to discuss this is because as a child of a divorced couple (one where Sally Field and Robin Williams happen to look and feel very similar to my own parents) the ending speech was a very touching speech growing up. Sure the film is fun, but I always found the speech to be so comforting as a child. They may not get back together, but you will get through it and still be loved. Look up the scene on YouTube if you need a reminder and some tissues when you remember about Robin Williams.
5) Juno
“Juno” is an unusual film in that it was incredibly well-reviewed and loved when it first came out, but if you ask many others nowadays you’ll probably get a full list of their critiques of it. Now so many of the things that were originally listed as what made it so original are now used to mock it. Personally I still really enjoy it. A large part of why this is on this list can be attributed to Allison Janney. As an actress she generally excels at playing really very real feeling characters. It’s hard to explain what exactly it is that just works so well about her. There’s a little bit of the opening monologue that explains what happened to Juno’s birth mother, but it’s never dwelled on. I’d say the part of the film that gets her on this list is the ultrasound scene. The total mother lioness that comes out in that scene is just fantastic and makes me laugh every time.
4) Love Actually
This is a bit low on the list as it’s one that I didn’t even remember that Liam Neeson was a step father. I know some people LOVE this movie and it’s a Christmas tradition. I like the film. It’s not one of my favorites, (DON’T KILL ME) but it’s a nice little film. One of my favorite stories was Liam Neeson’s with his son. It was pretty basic. His wife has just passed away and he’s struggling to cope. His wife’s son and him actually have a pretty solid relationship. He may be hurting, but he never let’s it affect his step-son. Most of the story ends up centering around his son and his attempts to tell this girl he has a crush on how he feels before she returns to America. The scene of the son running through the airport is probably one of the most famous. The real reason I wanted to add this is connected with the first sentence. I guess I forgot or maybe missed the line of dialog mentioning that he was his step-dad. However, watching the film itself it never feels like it. They just seem like a real, solid father and son and that just shows the best that step families can get.
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2) EdTV
Many people probably remember this as the other reality TV movie about a man being on TV 24/7 that came out around the same time as “The Truman Show.” Which I find funny since it was after these films that the reality TV shows REALLY seemed to take off. I think “The Truman Show” is seen as the better one of the two, but I very much enjoy both. “The Truman Show” may be a more clever, emotional film but “EdTV” still had some great cast and hilarious moments. It’s definitely the more mainstream of the two. However, that’s not necessarily a bad thing and even though I think “EdTV” was more about being silly than “Truman Show” it did manage to pull some strong emotional punches.
Now the films starts off interestingly enough with his family. Martin Landau plays his stepfather. They mention their biological father once or twice before Dennis Hopper shows up wanting to re-connect. What I really like about him is that while he left them, but the film doesn’t treat him like an evil person. He wasn’t an abusive parent in fact the more we learn about it the more we learn that the mother did more of the unscrupulous things. Then, Hopper’s character dies and it leads to what I think is by far the best scene in the film. At this point Ed is a phenomenon, but to the point the rest of the family decides they don’t want him at the funeral with all the cameras following him. Martin Landau still comes by to talk/comfort with Ed. It is at this point Ed realizes that Landau’s character is his real father and tells him this. Martin Landau is a great actor and his face just sells it in this moment. A great reminder of how we can take our step parents for granted and how important it is to tell them these things sometimes.
1) The Birdcage
In this more PC culture and with LGBT members being very vocal about their representations on film I’m not sure what the general conscience of “The Birdcage” is. I don’t particularly care. I love this movie and it’s one of my favorite films ever. It’s one of the films my family constantly quote to each other. Fun Fact: this is actually a remake of a French film. I’m still trying to track down a copy to watch so no opinion on that. For those who don’t know, the story is about a gay Florida couple (Albert and Armand) that owns a drag club. Their son comes home to announce his engagement. At the same time, the fiancée tells her Rightwing Conservative parents while neglecting to mention they’re gay. The problem comes with her parents who are in the middle of a public scandal. When they come to meet the boy’s parents, Armand and Albert must try to pass as straight. The plan falls apart as the night goes, but they continue with it as the comedy just builds and builds.
Now one may argue with this film being an entry depending on their definition of what a step parent is. Technically Robin Williams’ character was never married. He just had a drunken tryst with a woman. For me for all that this film is high camp, loud and in your face about its “gayness” the story at its core is very serious and heartfelt in subtle ways. Nathan Lane kills it in this film as the old queen type of gay, but still feels real. The scene when he cleans up after the son after he’s fallen asleep is fantastic. With no words Lane sells it. He so loves this boy and has been watching over him since he was young like a mother. Again, that’s what the best step families do. They make you forget there is no blood relation and just see/feel the love between them.
If there is one complaint with the film, it’s that the kids despite their wedding setting the whole film in motion are pretty bland and forgettable. When you get down to it what the kids are asking the parents to do is kind of messed up. It’s a common thing with step kids especially to take the step parents for granted at times. It’s normal and hopefully most grow out of it and learn better. That’s one thing I’ll suggest for whenever they remake this again. Make the kids more fleshed out characters with their own arcs. Albert and Armand should still be the center of the story, but let the kids also develop. As such, they’re just McGuffins not people. I agree we don’t need to remake this. However, if Hollywood does it there’s my free advice on it.
Now go tell your family (blood related or otherwise) you love them.